Sex 3: Others & Sex

I want to be happy. 

 

_____ doesn't want to have sex with me. 

_____ doesn't enjoy sex with me. 

_____ controls me with sex. 

_____ pressures me into having sex. 

_____ is pushy with sex. 

_____ is pushy about sex. 

_____ pushes me into having sex. 

_____ doesn't listen to what I want. 

_____ blames me for our bad sex life. 

_____ blames me because I have an orgasm before he/she does. 

_____ blames me because I don't please him/her. 

_____ blames me because I don't know what he/she likes. 

 

Take a deep breath and a drink. 

 

_____ tells me how bad I am at sex. 

_____ doesn't respect my sexual boundaries. 

_____ avoids having sex with me. 

_____ rejects my sexual advances. 

_____ competes with me sexually. 

_____ criticizes me sexually. 

_____ expects me to like what he/she likes. 

_____ expects me to fall for them after sex. 

_____ expects me to please him/her and only him/her. 

_____ wants me to have sex as much as he/she does. 

_____ wants to have sex more. 

 

Take a deep breath and a drink. 

 

_____ doesn't know how to please me. 

_____ doesn't want intimacy just sex. 

_____ doesn't value me sexually. 

_____ doesn't want me masturbating. 

_____ doesn't want me watching porn. 

_____ makes me feel that masturbation is wrong. 

_____ makes me feel that watching porn is wrong. 

_____ doesn't want me to enjoy sex without him/her. 

_____ uses sex against me. 

_____ manipulates me with sex. 

_____ has power over me when we have sex. 

 

Take a deep breath and a drink. 

 

_____ criticizes me for watching porn fantasizing or masturbating. 

_____ is insecure because I watch porn. 

_____ is insecure because I fantasize. 

_____ is insecure because I masturbate without him or her. 

 

Take a deep breath and a drink. 

 

 

I be complete and done with letting others use sex against me. 

I be complete and done with letting others control me with sex. 

I be complete and done with letting others pressure me into having sex. 

I be complete and done with having sex with others so they will like me. 

I be complete and done with letting others push me into sex. 

I be complete and done with taking the blame for not pleasing my partner. 

I be complete and done with caring about others expectations during sex. 

I be complete and done with caring about others criticisms about my sexual performance. 

I be complete and done with caring about others criticisms about my sexuality. 

I be complete and done with caring about others criticisms about my sexual preferences. 

 

Take a deep breath and a drink. 

 

I be complete and done with feeling dirty when I have sex. 

I be complete and done with others having power over me sexually. 

I be complete and done with feeling bad when I have sex. 

I be complete and done with my fear of feeling pleasure. 

I be complete and done with my fear of pleasing my partner. 

I be complete and done with having to watch porn to enjoy sex. 

I be complete and done with having to fantasize to enjoy sex. 

I be complete and done with not liking foreplay. 

I be complete and done with not liking anal sex. 

I be complete and done with not liking oral sex. 

I be complete and done with letting others manipulate me during sex. 

 

Take a deep breath and a drink. 

 

When I have sex I feel great. 

When I have sex I let myself go and enjoy my orgasms. 

When I have sex I feel the pleasure throughout my body. 

When I have sex I love pleasing my partner. 

I like talking to my partner about what I like sexually. 

I like trying new things sexually. 

I pay attention to my partner's needs. 

I spend time and enjoy foreplay. 

I am willing to try anal sex. 

I willing to try oral sex. 

 

Take a deep breath and a drink. 

 

I communicate with my partner about masturbation. 

I enjoy the sex with my partner more than masturbation. 

I enjoy making love with my partner more than masturbation. 

I know masturbation is good and good for me. 

I encourage my partner to masturbate. 

I reclaim my power before, during and after sex. 

I be secure with my sexuality. 

I be secure in knowing that I enjoy having a sexual partner. 

I be secure in knowing that I do everything in moderation. 

 

Take a deep breath and a drink. 

 

Homework statements: 

I want to be happy. 

When I have sex I feel great. 

When I have sex I let myself go and enjoy my orgasms. 

I like talking to my partner about what I like sexually. 

I like trying new things sexually. 

I spend time and enjoy foreplay. 

I reclaim my power before, during and after sex.