Sex 2: When I Have Sex I _____

I want to be happy. 

 

I have a physical issue with sex. 

I have a mental issue with sex. 

I have an emotional issue with sex. 

I have a spiritual issue with sex. 

 

Take a deep breath and a drink. 

 

When I have sex I use it against others. 

I use sex to control others. 

I use sex so others will leave me. 

When I have sex I leave them. 

When I have sex I have expectations. 

When I have sex I criticize. 

When I have sex I criticize his/her body. 

When I have sex I have power over him/her. 

When I have sex I feel dirty. 

When I have sex I feel bad. 

 

Take a deep breath and a drink. 

 

When I have sex I manipulate others. 

When I have sex I don't value others. 

When I have sex I blame others. 

When I have sex I don't have orgasms. 

When I have sex I fake my orgasms. 

When I have sex I'm afraid to feel pleasure. 

When I have sex I'm afraid to please my partner. 

When I have sex I have to watch porn. 

When I have sex I have to fantasize. 

When I have sex I am afraid to experiment. 

When I have sex I am afraid to express what I like. 

 

Take a deep breath and a drink. 

 

When I have sex I don't pay attention to my partner's needs. 

When I have sex I am impatient. 

When I have sex I don't spend time on foreplay. 

When I have sex I don't like foreplay. 

When I have sex I don't like anal sex. 

When I have sex I don't like oral sex. 

 

Take a deep breath and a drink. 

 

When my partner isn't around I masturbate. 

I hide my masturbation. 

I like masturbation better than having sex with my partner. 

I believe masturbation is bad. 

I believe in all the myths about the harm masturbation causes. 

 

Take a deep breath and a drink. 

 

 

I be complete and done with my physical issues with sex. 

I be complete and done with my mental issues with sex. 

I be complete and done with my emotional issues with sex. 

I be complete and done with my spiritual issues with sex. 

I be complete and done with using sex against others. 

I be complete and done with using sex to control others. 

I be complete and done with using sex so others will stay with me. 

I be complete and done with having expectations of others after sex. 

I be complete and done with expecting others to fall in love with me after sex. 

 

Take a deep breath and a drink. 

 

I be complete and done with criticizing others about sex. 

I be complete and done with having power over others with sex. 

I be complete and done with manipulating others with sex. 

I be complete and done with blaming others with sex. 

I be complete and done with faking my orgasms. 

I be complete and done with my fear of pleasing my partner. 

I be complete and done with my fear of pleasing myself. 

I be complete and done with my fear to express what I like. 

 

Take a deep breath and a drink. 

 

It is okay for me to watch porn occasionally. 

It is okay for me to fantasize occasionally. 

It is okay for me to try new things and experiment. 

It is okay for me to masturbate. 

I know that masturbation is healthy and fun. 

I enjoy sex with my partner. 

I would rather have sex with my partner then masturbate. 

I enjoy spending time and relishing the sexual moments. 

I value my pleasure. 

I value pleasing others. 

I be a patient and considerate lover. 

I pay attention to my partner's needs wants and desires. 

Sex is great. 

I enjoy masturbation. 

I enjoy sex with my partner. 

I celebrate my sexual relationship. 

I engage in my sexual activities. 

I enjoy making love with my partner. 

 

Take a deep breath and a drink. 

 

Homework statements: 

I want to be happy. 

I know that masturbation is healthy and fun. 

I enjoy sex with my partner. 

I enjoy spending time and relishing the sexual moments. 

I value my pleasure. 

I value pleasing others. 

I be a patient and considerate lover.